While 50 Shades of Gray has brought BDSM into the mainstream, many couples regularly practice this lifestyle, which includes sexual behaviors that include domination, bondage, and sadomasochism. But is it healthy to add a little spanking and submission to your sex life?

Dr. Stephanie Hunter Jones, a certified sex therapist, works with couples to introduce BDSM into their bedrooms — and she told Motto that she’s seen the practice completely revive partnerships. “It definitely makes a difference for damaged relationships,” Dr. Jones said.

Dr. Jones spoke with Motto about her work, what impact BDSM can have on relationships and how “vanilla” couples can start getting a little kinky.

What impact can BDSM have on relationships?

Jones: For couples who are already involved, they are no different than other couples. They have the same concerns. BDSM is an expression of a person's uniqueness and I always find our BDSM couples very lucky because they have found a partner who is perfect for them.

But I also help regular couples introduce BDSM into their relationships, sometimes to save their union. I recently had a couple come in recently and the wife was in tears. She said she was no longer attracted to her husband and she thought their marriage was over. They have been married for about ten years. So I met them individually and found out that their relationship was a complete power struggle. In this relationship, he completely dominates her. So I assigned them the task of her "dominating" him in the bedroom. This completely saved their marriage. They have become lifestylers.

I often prescribe BDSM for power struggles or control issues. Or, if a partner has had a bad sexual experience in the past, I would use that as a way to give that partner back a sense of control.

So, how can a couple that’s never tried BDSM before organically introduce it into their relationship?

There are many videos online. I'll check these out and do some research. I also often refer my clients to doms and have them show them safe ways to play. You can have a session with the dom and they will show you the ropes and different types of exercises you can do in the bedroom.

Here's a scenario: a person - playing the dom (the person in power) can pretend to be the CEO of a company, and the submissive person can be an employee.

When it comes to BDSM, there is absolutely nothing to fear. People think it equals pain. But, in reality, BDSM covers everything from funny cosplay to spanking to tying up your partner and making fun of them with feathers. You can do whatever you want - as long as it's voluntary. But neither do you. You can always stick your toes in - that still adds a level of erotic energy to your partner's sex game.

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